First of all, just to talk a little bit about a person upon which I think, it's very significant in relation to the family and it's a very everybody knows of this Hadith, because it's
quoted almost every Juma and it's a person that a Uthman ibn Mathum said that when he first became Muslim, he actually became Muslim because he loved the Prophet (SAW)
and the Prophet(SAW) used to always be explaining Islam and finally he became ashamed every time he saw him, that he became a Muslim to please him, and he said
that in that ended higher maruti nice of life now and he said without internet
doctor POV had a resident Patti Adam the
email really didn't come into his heart
until this ayah was revealed and its
really the probability the depth of the
ayah is awesome but unless banana
analysis in la banda llamo Bradley would
Excel our recipe and without a commands
to Adam which is justice and xn which is
making things beautiful the Italian
fella and commanding to taking to
helping and giving to relatives when
Yanina and in fact shaggy balloon
carrier buddy Yahoo come down to come to
that government and almost an entire
prohibits at a faction which is
everything you stop by with the colonel
anything that people don't like to hear
about that is factual things that are
really the unmentionables Unspeakables
when moo cow everything rejected in a
healthy society that's probably some
milk on is the outside of Maui its web
people reject when their mounts are
healthy and this is why the Federation
was commanded to 1mm to command when
people know what's common knowledge it's
now in this mayonnaise its opposite like
the fertilizing itself in the end of
time the Maru be kind of mellow par and
remain how it becomes morrow this is
what's happened and this is the state
health and then finally a body which is
a question and buggies in a good word it
comes from the root meaning is to desire
and so the major of depression
oppression of one personal remember use
the results because they want something
that that person or that country has
right this is really the essence of
oppression is taking what is not yours
what are you sayin telling in mahogany
and the essence of Justice is giving
everything it's due giving everything
else dude and then Allah said that he is
telling us
do this amended that we might remember
now just in relation to the families you
look at these atoms the first thing
about the family is the ambien has to be
based on justice there has to be justice
for instance unless to panera taba has
made the human the mail generally
stronger than the female physically the
mail has generally this is obviously you
get your banker out and it's going to
you know you'll get your deviations from
the mean right but normally you are
dealing with strength that a female is
is mess strong physically and I'm
talking about Ruth is perfect because
women have other types of physical
traits that mental map for instance a
child when if a man had to give birth to
children they said there wouldn't be any
more people so because of that physical
strength that has to be added in other
words and ruler becomes unjust when we
turn dresses and one of the things that
are lunar has that you don't have
is an army the river has an army and
when he uses the oddity to impress
people he becomes of Ireland when this
is the army to protect people he's just
so it uses his strength to protect his
women than was a last minute but it he
uses a straight to impress his woman
he's abroad and the biggest model is
found he's the he's the head of the body
me his email and not the people have the
power they never even with serrano he's
better talk about that they all wanted
to be like really might makes right this
is the methodology of the time might
makes right so in many houses a melon
ruled the roost not true justice but
true the power of his arm might makes
right shut up just dude I say and don't
ask questions right and I know there's
million that word these type of things
may be more abusive now not to be
totally unfair to the men there's also
women that do the same thing to the men
because I women can have a man who's
very patient and doesn't
that and should abuse that type of
health or that patients and the public
ruined about that he will about women we
had a profiling wine shop that they were
ungrateful for the grid company of that
husband and complaining about him and
then agreement that become discontent
with my husband because he doesn't make
enough money or he doesn't have this or
he doesn't so these are the roots of
troubles in with family you know we
can't always put it one side and it will
be words but words but often you have
this problem of an onion husband and
throwin had a right as yet who live a
righteous woman and she asks a lot to
save her phone fill out from his
impression her allah as he asked you for
a house to be felt in general so i hope
that has to be justice in the house now
this doesn't simply related to the red
and artillery ID about nana to i and the
premise and i should have said but he
come on little tiananmen and how did his
body is paralyzed and they asked him
about that and he said it was a man who
did not show justice between his two
wives and eleanor was founded by two
wives and repenting to give them a li he
would count the scenes with each piece
to make sure
acne the same this is not a joke these
people have talked about they knew he
was coming so justice not simply to the
white the children the poets of Iceland
someone saw a man kiss his son and the
daughter was there and he said mom sucks
opinion you haven't been just between
the two if you kiss the one you have to
kiss the other this is teaching Heather
you have to have justice the cheddar and
demand justice now not only does not
command to justice did you make say I
said in other word not just being just
but going above and beyond the just with
the just cause we're and actually
remembering the riots to give it to the
other one and about this I adult when I
wasn't ever taught ourselves that men
that have a degree right well i'm gonna
give anything that will reserve
we represent a team that Loretta the
women have the same the rights are the
same as the men its equal that's
leprechaun said the right hand the same
as a minute and then it says without any
me now dollar said men have one degree
away with it when amerigas who is given
the temira perform the ability time the
center of our armies called on Romero
from the internal of the pond because of
the dryer that was answered by the third
when he said along my little weird the
with ed teacher the interpolation
fun and give him understanding of this
beat you cannot pass him the Dodger that
are not necessary Family and Community
Luca Luca he said the pathology our
minds given our men over women is the
damaja of telecom that they relinquish
their right to the one in a
people know everything that's due to her
but they don't expect everything that's
due to less it's an amazing
interpretation think about that and who
is better example than the messenger
Allah who is better if you want to see a
better example who are unified with a
message of allah the writer commented in
material came to the family of the
purpose of myself and they said that she
melts looked miserable china mechanics
be rotten by ever claris her face looked
bad they said not need you to hurry over
bill they said what's wrong with you and
he said under the whole society one
malade for partying what's wrong with me
my husband as for the day time he fast
and after the night time his play all
night long in other words she wasn't
given were right and here's a man we
wish the river wish they had men not
giving advice like that bank I mean
somebody so preoccupied with her walk
the perils of my son had of men even met
her brought to him and he said young man
and he was upset with her he said LF
studious Radhika are yer example and he
said no me hace Novotny said Korea I'll
tell me then follow me in other words
the power supply to know did not do that
and he's not better than a messenger
Allah they said the next time they saw
his wife she was wearing nice clothes
and she was in a good state he took the
messenger Allah told him to do so that
has to be xn there has to be Excel
inside the house the man has to be a
maxima and the woman has to be a Messina
and if there's no exam with justice you
don't have a relationship that at least
there is no depression like there's no
because mom comes from xn xn is one of
the things that it comes from that when
you let her out you want to be mixed in
and sort of a man who loves his right he
wants to do etc and vice versa and also
to the children but each other a lot not
only does not have to be dusters and XL
but there has to be the extended family
in other with Islam encourages us to
strengthen the bars not simply about a
medium running this country to have
nuclear family but beyond them clear for
me to let them go why there's two things
about this weather is that the first
thing in which we learn to be human is
within our own immediate family but that
humanity has to move the arm the
immediate family in other ways the
socialization has to take place and will
be on it to where we begin to learn to
live with other people and the first
people will be able to learn to live
with is booting para bots are only
cousins our uncle's RS the person has
said that the uncle is the same as the
far
aunt is the same as the mother they are
the same prepared you have to show them
their righteousness in your piety these
things have to be displayed and then a
modular data set whenever an infection
or become a less bandwidth added
prohibits fact she'll there cannot be if
you have an owner that has added XM and
is treating the blood bank balance then
that is American malice but they have
many animal cop in other words that the
society not only has to have all the
positive attribute but it must have
actively engaged in including negative
qualities within the cultures and within
the societies and this is why our newest
fad shall note our and buzzy Allah
reminds us that perhaps we might take
exhortation so I want to just quickly go
over some basic things about the shop
the first thing to remember is personal
itself comes from an Arabic word which
means to bind together and a seer is a
prisoner and in the sense each one of us
is a prisoner about family the family
itself is something that you can get out
and I'm talking about blood farms
initially in terms of marriage that are
not
worse in circumstances in which a merits
can't at work and this is from the
blessings of this Dean because of the
Christians prohibitive divorce and it
became a big problem they used to have
ruler that needed the Pope to annul
marriages because they wanted to just
get rid of a woman or she wasn't
providing heir to the throne mr. famous
that I'm wicked church house because
King Henry the hell wouldn't give him a
difference aging for these many the
Spanish woman couldn't give a child and
the Spanish millions mother move as the
Prince of Spain was very close to the
park and so the park was in this double
bond and this is the duty now you see so
he wouldn't give a dispensation from
Henry the eighth one of his advisers
told him seven times make your own
church so he did he said that's a good
idea we called anglican church
anglo-saxons and that's what it became
and that's why the Christians now in
England father they don't follow the
Catholic tradition that's why the Irish
are still comics because they said
forget at first you convert us to
Catholicism now you're going to save
them Academy Catholics anymore so it's
time finding them been going on since
there are all right both very simple
solution they all become a son the king
could have gotten a second wife couldn't
maintain the first
no more thing and everything's fine
right it's some songs problems that's
what it does and get rid of the para
frightened he is a problem right
seriously I mean don't get rid of a life
that's a Turkish man tried to do you get
in trouble if you think about it because
people like a stupid whore do something
captain they took like you know the
answer yeah sure mom tell you that come
about this red carpet they ask you trips
all right you know what you said up to
take that may allow destroy these people
and then this won't make you happy I
they took the tape though certainly said
Muslims they cut stratum in it says yes
you more wirelessly a new problem in our
own kind of X and then this is my bitch
wat right my wife wrote this I mean it
was talking about well Superman is
completely framed fred samara for
another one there is unbelievable and
it's more polite and shouldn't even be
making light of it because it's they
could do it to anybody there was this is
their game with it's like with these
things so that's right at the clarified
but they could still be who cares ready
for all right which is a certain point
you just thought that our thumb all
right and we were in the kitchen
he's of towners right I love you on a
panel of the Terios come on and this is
what happened to the Muslim right it's
true you know tomorrow no comment well I
for all the family so this is no adamant
that this is what you know it's not
really came to protect the family and to
create an environment in which the words
of Allah otherwise conducive the
environment is conducive to emotional
almost catatonic if you have think about
this if you have a situation where
there's strife within a family that was
fighting between the husband and the
wife this puts a steely look if there
are it's like people fear they are
constantly in a state of turmoil and
it's not going to be secure right Lydia
came to bring the king of the people and
if people are not living acquaintances
on the environment that takes place
inside the household is disastrous
because it results in there being an
unsettled situation show them suffer
women suffer and also be the husband
suffered everyone suffers so the
situation of the family is something
that I think is grossly neglected we're
reflecting the rights and
responsibilities with an emphasis on
responsibilities and just time that a
little bit about where we should be
going in terms of our own area here the
first thing to remember that the
American society is a society that
really in many ways is designed to
destroy the family just to give you some
examples there's no real good in this
country there is no they create these
fast communities that you can go you can
rent like an apartment where they create
this false community setting there
in the center what is community there's
no community you live there 10 years you
never know you're late you won't know
its name you won't know I'm not making
this up because all of you have been in
this situation how can javis from Islam
the right of the neighbor people should
at least know their neighbors name they
should be communication between them now
part of this is the television and the
Muslims should just get rid of it and
i've seen so many time i know that there
are some people in this community we've
done that because they came to me they
told me you notice since i got rid of
the television my life totally changed i
have time i read worth i spend more time
with my family there's people that
opponents i know people but there's many
people you look at the man you work from
he go to the Miller as seven in the
morning he come back at seven at night
he sit down in front of the television
no conversation between the family no I
mean first of all how many time now
they're there already debunking that in
fact they say it's better just for the
mother to be with the child all day long
really know it than to have ten minutes
of quality time because she's working on
it baby you can leave their own research
on a quality time there already
debunking the myth of quality time
children need attention they need to
hear from the parents they need to get
hugs they need to be talked to and if
we're using the television and to raise
our children then first of all like the
Jewish rabbi in London when he was at
Aquinas community didn't have
televisions and said because we look at
it I have enough open surah in your
thoughts at room right a Jewish rabbi
same I know soon I'm telling you you
can't watch TV now now only they have a
program and I read about this stuff I
don't want
stuff and how do you I don't want it I
read about this program in Newsweek
where they have this moment Ellen
DeGeneres having a relationship with
another one and then kissing on the
television I mean first of my
heterosexual we don't do that to prote
Islam for the heterosexual but this is
this is actually promoting homosexual
relationship on prime-time television
you don't want your and you don't want
one of this another cent the inner eye
of the heart is more sensitive than the
outer arm in other word but posea to the
human being is more sensitive very high
you get a tiny little here and ride or a
piece of sands of the life and think
about that Iran shatter your balloon
well he used to memorize the entire road
at one reading and one day he went out
and a woman's at silwan dy and their
dress do a piece on her leg and maintain
his glance at it another look there and
he'd look at her face and he looked at
without turning immediately away he went
back he couldn't imagine that he read it
three four and five times he went to
over here and he said shakily lie low
key issue I can't leave out said Anita
thought kanimozhi famous lines I could
went to my teacher were here about
having a bad memory and he told me you
want to leave this reveals for the ball
because knowledge of this deal
nice and the light of Allah does not
even about that a disobedient one now
here's a man who actually felt a
profound difference in his ability to
acquire knowledge from looking at eleven
one time right this one time I mean
we're people watching pornography people
you know it's looking at all of this
field it's unbelievable where are the
hardest and then you wonder why you here
wow you don't get affected by it more
money you hear the Quran it doesn't move
your heart people don't cut one of the
scholars he said if you want to know
whether your part is alive or dead then
look whether your eye is moist or dry in
it's nice that you should know that your
heart is a lot if it's dry then you
should know your heart is good the
prophets enticing them said if you
recall and weep and if you can't leave
pretend to weep because to shut that
little army fella even to imitate the
new people is a type of success not in
front of other people but in the private
pretend to we if you cannot me if you
are watching all this what does that do
to the hardest you think it doesn't have
an effect can never run a European
mechanics you burn because of what they
were earning this is what destroyed
their hearts really these people where
they are appointed the chimi you know
they just kill their young people are
just shootin killin people without my
demeanor you think you're me
can do that you think you know the boat
Aaliyah be served the number one in
pornographic country right in Europe was
Yugoslavia they were producing more smut
in all of Eastern Europe right or even
their many magazines have pornographic
pictures of women so why should you be
surprised when these men go away 50,000
women why why you're surprised at that
they are living off the denigration the
deputation of women they seem every
single day why should they care and this
is what happens so television is
destructive to families i will divide
everybody read either their celebrants
you can read picture of truth for
arguments for elimination of television
read the drag and drop by with the
plug-in drug the evil online right these
are all studies they'll give you
documented studies of the destructive
effects the television how long family
documents studies of the positive
effects that happens for families when
they got rid of the television right but
i guarantee you read home you turn on
the television and in other words you
don't want to bother people in their
growth now they come we want a peaceful
silence plays of reflection where we can
actually think about our death and we're
going to ask whether they bring a
tractor and they dumped into a grade you
tell me where you come from
India Pakistan Afghanistan say they do
we do this to our dead in Muslim
countries more often do they do that
with its fast food and this is it you
know it just keep get it over with big
tractor come in and jump in stock it's
soulful music and then a pounding
machine when our portable item said that
we hear the sound of the sand pounding
machine blasting the soil into it right
so you don't have to come back to the
lair after the serves on contract and
after filling some more which is all do
it fast get it over with quick what are
we doing this for their right they
deserve better than support Kataya to
bear out that we should have our own
secretary we should have a network if
somebody buys people know that collector
themselves you will suddenly be sociable
is the best thing there should be 70
people at the funeral event we need to
survive that's why we go so very
prepared to make an exception for us to
make the other than 11 less activity
along with the residential area 11 ah
hello you know did with this was
community but now I'm saying this there
has to be one person in this room that
says you know you I can't do everything
all of you can there has to be something
you said plz fillery let's change the
condition one person that matter it just
taking one person in this room that says
I'm going to do something about this and
I'll say something that one
we'll do it and my god was going to live
for every single person that's dead
probably sensing Mecca we don't even
have the people facing Mecca properly
they give these grapes single now didn't
get us a compass out they don't lift
really i mean this is another area we
should have a room in here for bristles
which would be people that we have a
community as a group of people that are
committed to bettering washing the plan
to be touching the ferry teaching there
because a lot of people don't even know
we should have tip around here we have
the most we should have this the camera
these things to prevent our death right
we should have a car to take the body
prices we have get out and be lifting
things no this is what you know how many
people start not muslims in this area
there's people dying in the rain weather
there must be best we buried adult a
lady was not all right by him all night
is what we have to do to to to make a
real community where there's some care
and concern not just for living but for
the dead as well and and and it's a
blessing to go and visit those people
said amazing either I really we need
food one half and the other tips today
wow I used to tell you don't visit the
grave now I can you go visit them it's a
good thing to go to the graveyard of the
Muslims as they are so many other
sagaponack neurological insha'allah to
see said unto them to remind yourself of
where you're going to go we're all going
to be there and I don't want to it
everybody in the Anubis I don't want a
tractor I'm asking you all what if I
thought I don't know well right I do
yeah I'll rather be very thin I don't
want to tractor I want my Muslim
brothers to take their shadows and
bearing me like a human being not like a
doll you know really I mean that's one
area now just think that the brother
asked me just to distinguish because
time is getting up yeah just one thing
about the discipline the air the
Shenyang the website is you should not
be doing this you know bang your head on
the shop from Earth that they have no
terribly with that similar to Jesus
seven and seven making bigger sit and
don't feel tired he understands me I
graduated you study at neurophysiology
you'll know very clearly they don't you
can tell them two minutes later it's
it's forgotten completely before seven
there's no technique a logical directly
be nice to your children at seven
traditional set new management center
rather different abuse it a lot and in
the group you mentioned about one of the
hot tub that you shouldn't discipline
children sad and he said this is obvious
but we were never taught shown in the
Quran in other words you saying you
moved from after seven you need some
discipline with some children not all
children but some children but it should
not be a punishment it's not be done out
of anger right and in this country you
have to be very careful but the pair
would never get a child not once he
never hit a woman and he never hit a
servant not once and eat whatever they
are
canaletto sri lanka's wouldn't happen so
it may be some question and then we'll
stop and pray inshallah we get nearly 45
minutes yeah okay yeah that's true there
is a Muslim Cemetery in Liverpool little
more that I heard about and and we
should be supporting that you know and
it is off as well from Shelia it's
paying mind you're not supposed to waste
money in burying the dead like the
coffin and all this is all from their
culture it's not our tradition the dead
you're not even supposed to throw the
perfume and thing into the thing cuz
it's considered a software how to
preserve like the sense behind the
funeral out in the open air no I
understand that yes right now yeah i
understand it I mean there's the people
that did that they did oh then what
others about taste like yeah about tapes
about advises people nothing is people
watching ABC NBC CBS are any type of
things i will do that it's propaganda
you don't get used from there are
enormous elements watching
they proven that people watch TV news
don't know anything about what's going
on it's all top again you're not
learning anything that's going on if
people have television sets and they've
already started the investment or
whatever and they have programs that are
beneficial that's another matter not i'm
not really talking about that but i
would say about children be very careful
about your especially before the age of
seven giving them having given these
poems have a strong programs the more i
think about it the more powers meet and
i'll tell you because if you stay the
development of the bird and also as many
of the things that are being shown
there's too many excitement there's too
much children ruth to learn in
environment that are conducive to their
own levels in mind they're already too
cramped up no need to crack them up
anywhere with you know Sesame Street's
title from programs and things anything
mrs. Pritchard no you still have that
backup of your extended family yeah
about extended family if they're not
Muslim the family who is not Muslim has
the same color as the family that's
Muslim in fact even in shelley out your
parents at the National I did it the
right to the Muslim prayers except once
they die you don't you don't make broad
for them that's the ban the exact thing
people of the very right game on all of
those things they have the same you know
any look even in the shell yet so just a
woman who's a non Muslim woman if she's
married to her hustle man and they have
children she has the haunted they get
support I'm not missing women she had
the right to bring her children the
devil take the children just because he
says no she's a cancer as well why did
you see that when you married it right
now she's a cabin before he was
happiness
like a lot who didn't stays the same we
will not pay of Josie invention once he
said that it's not an indeed but there's
truth in the same no one leaves a thing
for the sake of Allah except Allah will
replace it for something better but when
Tim payment of the money said about that
saying he said Allah would not give you
something better immediately because he
wants to test your sincerity if you
leave something for the sake of Allah
Allah to replace it with something
better if you leave the television for
the sake of Allah Allah we will place it
for something better he will replace it
for something better right because
you're just introducing a food and your
family your drum you're depriving your
family your children at a time that they
should be given from the fathers and the
mothers right now the other thing about
the family is maintaining time are just
hung a few things about this community
we have people to get sick in this
community nobody knows nobody visits
that nobody asks about them we have
people who are dying in this community
nobody knows nobody asthma is a funky 5
you're supposed to go to feed the family
the people of the house you should go
and take them food right well I mean
this is what community is about and if
we're not doing these things then
nothing there's no community it's a lie
with pseudo community it's like me
virtual it become virtual community we
live on the email we send each other
emails right virtual community there's
no gatherings there's no necklace
there's no setup this is mike coming
together meaning and not just all this
mana larger you know i'm not saying
chocolate not just multi the drunk
person coming and you know give some
speech or something like human
interaction literally going and visiting
people in having human interaction and
not wasting our time with Muslims so the
human interaction should be based on
Ellen during our space when we come
together we should be talking about
things of substance not just empty talk
talking being people are substance young
people are dead just people getting
together and studying a book together
for money reading a book together take a
look if you don't know Arabic take the
book of set up five people you have some
friends get together and said let's read
this book and let's discuss the world
that's all you have to do just look some
some entrance even taking a group of
your truck we don't all have to be
rather we can I inner ourselves with our
I mean the I cannot natural relationship
with every single for the macmini
alright we cannot reach it you can you
can't help but you have to have a little
people then then there's some same ever
there's some companionship there's some
love firm that you take care of each
other and that extends out and it
primary should be the extended family
that in this situation many with normal
extended family here it should at least
be a group of brothers and have
something even if it's a culture was
nothing wrong with a group of Egyptian a
group that
there it shouldn't be for a surreal
another have just you know you exclude
other people but there's nothing wrong
with groups that share certain
characteristics and qualities language
ethnic background culture where these
are things that are joined in event
online again either to truly terrible
you know that will try and amazes we
come to know each other alright so this
is part of our reality Super Show and
arrive and then finally just a couple of
other things we have to have projects
that transcend simply are our work that
we're doing if you're working on a
computer company that cannot be here at
a money really and and it's better that
you quit your job and go do something as
where you can devote some time to our
walk and rattan and his messenger I mean
see the folly of the Welcome given it
out of you rubbing on who said the best
situation is a man he can give his wrist
in one or two days and he spent the rest
of his time for the sake of Allah
subhanAllah Dada and who isn't they used
to work you know they worked from after
the shiur earth and turn about two
o'clock and then that was done they were
done with our dunya and then they went
did the other thing really so you can't
have just your good marriage or any
projects you have to be financially
dedicated and also speed and an
otherwise those things in this community
we have groups Rahima is one of them
there are other ones you know just like
sister Aviva this is mainly doing this
bastard there's other people involved
and I can't name all them I don't
northerners but there are other people
involved you know this was started to
help some of the media list and there
it's been helping there's now she has
over 70 families that she's helping and
these are families that need help these
are Muslim families that need help and
people have to support in the community
financial have to go and say what can I
do welcome you know I'm just even
wanting about other examples in the
community but i'm using this morning up
what can I do sister is there anything
you need is there some help there has to
be some support people get burned out